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  Good evening, dear readers. Today, I have decided to grace this page with the story I promised to share in my last article. This is not merely a continuation; it is a revelation. A journey marked by truth, painful lessons, and grace uncovered along the way. I share this with a sincere heart, trusting that someone reading may find clarity, courage, or comfort in these words. Thank you for staying with me. Let us begin. In my previous write-up titled “The Accused, Not Guilty,” we examined how people often trust the wrong sources, avoid confrontation, and cling to narratives they find convenient. We spoke about how human beings love stories; especially stories that affirm their insecurities and how those insecurities are sometimes projected onto innocent people. What I want to share today is not exactly a testimony, but an experience. I worship in a local church, and for reasons I genuinely do not understand, why two women harbor deep hatred towards me. I call it hatred b...

  I’ve come to realize, in my few years on earth, that the accused are often innocent of the very things they are blamed for. In fact, they are usually the last to even know what their supposed “crime” is—if it can be called a crime at all. Many people inherit hatred toward others without ever knowing what the accused has truly done. Simply because a friend, family member, or colleague speaks negatively about someone—whether a brother, a sister, or even a stranger—they adopt that bitterness as their own. No chance is given for the accused to explain themselves or reveal who they really are. Why this happens still baffles me. Accusation—especially false accusation—cuts deeply because it attacks not only what you’ve done, but who you are. And yes, many times people inherit opinions and emotions that were never theirs to begin with. Hatred, suspicion, and bias can spread quickly—often with no evidence at all. This painful pattern happens for many reasons: ▪ People trust the ...

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  Yes, a mother can reject and forget her child, and while it may sound shocking—real life shows us it happens more often than people admit. When a child is rejected from birth, especially over something like gender, the wound can run very deep. It’s not the child’s fault at all—the child never chose to be male or female. That rejection says more about the mother’s unhealed expectations, her cultural pressures, and maybe even her own disappointments in life. Here are a few takes on the matter: 1. Rejection is never about the child The child becomes the “mirror” of the parent’s frustrations, but the problem lies with the parent’s mindset, not the child’s existence. The pain belongs to the parent, but tragically, the child often carries the weight of it. 2. Cultural and societal pressures play a role In some cultures, a male child is considered more valuable. This can push a mother into bitterness when she births a girl, feeling she has failed her husband, her family, or society. But...

  Dystopic Sibling: How Parental Favouritism Erodes Family Bonds 2.0 Breaking the Cycle Addressing the destructive dynamics of parental favouritism requires intentional and sustained effort. Here are practical steps toward healing and prevention: Awareness and Reflection: Parents must first recognize their biases and actively work to treat all children equitably. Self-examination is essential; only when biases are acknowledged can change begin. Open Communication: Families thrive on honest and safe conversations where feelings of neglect, anger, and resentment can be expressed without fear. Healing becomes possible when everyone involved acknowledges their role. In cases where both parents are deceased, extended family elders can help mediate and facilitate reconciliation. Counseling and Support: Therapy can be an invaluable tool for healing emotional wounds and rebuilding trust among siblings. However, in societies like Nigeria, where trauma and counseling are often dismissed, vic...

Dystopic Sibling: How Parental Favoritism Erodes Family Bonds Introduction Parental favoritism is more than just a fleeting passing —it can profoundly shape the emotional landscape of a family. When one child is consistently favored over others, it can create invisible fault lines that fracture sibling relationships and leave lasting psychological scars. This article explores how such favoritism can transform ordinary sibling rivalry into deeply destructive dynamics. The Family Example Consider a family with five children. From an early age, the mother openly dislikes one of the child , showing minimal affection or support. The other siblings, consciously or unconsciously influenced by this bias, begin to mirror her feelings. What might have started as minor disagreements turns into sustained hostility. Even when the neglected child attempts gesture of kindness or reconciliation, these efforts are met with rejection, resentment, and at times, cruelty. Over time, the neglected chi...